â??I cannot describe to you all of the feelings that went through me that day. I had a son at home that I was going to have to explain--the baby is not coming home with Mommy. It was all the worst experience I have ever been through.â?? Amy Roan Bott.
Amy and dozens of others shared their grief after reading our story, â??Miscarriage: A motherâ??s silent grief.â?? Their pain is evident in their words.
Courtney Stevens Bos: â??I lost a baby a little over two years ago. I was already into my second trimester so I had started to share the news with friends and family--to only have to turn around and try to explain to others what I couldn't understand myself. I couldn't even talk about it, see other pregnant women, or little babies without becoming so overcome with grief that it was hard to even breathe.â??
This comes from Stephanie Ilene Thacher: â??I had to go 2 days with my baby inside me knowing it wasn't alive anymore. All I could do is cry. I blamed myself and didn't understand why this had to happen to me.â?? You can follow the entire thread of stories on our KHQA Facebook page.
Miscarriage happens more often than you might think. The March of Dimes reports about 10 to 15 percent of recognized pregnancies end this way. As many as 40 percent of all pregnancies may end in miscarriage, because many losses occur before a woman realizes she is pregnant. The March of Dimes defines miscarriage as a pregnancy loss that occurs before the fetus is viable, at 20 weeks. Many more women lose their babies after that benchmark.
Holly Gilham Woodruff was one month from her due date when her daughter Priscilla died in her womb. She delivered by C-section. â??She had absolutely nothing wrong. An absolutely beautiful silent baby girl. It was when I figured out bad things can and do happen to good people.â??
Hollyâ??s experience of delivering a stillborn baby inspired her to go to nursing school so that she could make a difference. In a follow-up column, weâ??ll talk to Holly about her efforts and tell you where you can go to talk to other mothers in our area who are suffering the grief of miscarriage.
Take care ~Sarah D.